In Chapter 17, Phoebe finds herself anxious and uncertain about Lila’s absence before the Blending of the Families, worried that Lila may be upset with her for various reasons, including leaving Gas-X at her door without packaging. Ultimately, she reflects on her own feelings of joy and love she experienced with Gary, acknowledging that Lila encouraged her to embrace this feeling. However, when it comes to writing her maid of honor speech, she struggles to articulate her thoughts, feeling as though she’s writing on a topic she doesn’t fully believe in.

Her introspection leads her to recognize the disconnect in Lila and Gary’s relationship. They are not truly in love; rather, they are two individuals seeking love, possibly out of a fear of loneliness. Phoebe encounters Jim, who initially seeks her help with his speech but soon becomes an ally in their shared predicament. As they brainstorm together, Jim reveals his insecurities about his understanding of Gary’s new relationship with Lila, questioning the authenticity and depth of Gary’s feelings.

As the conversation deepens, Jim nostalgically recounts his own crush on Lila and a poignant moment they shared when she was grieving her father’s illness. Despite his feelings toward her, he confesses that he ultimately stepped aside for Gary out of loyalty, believing that Gary’s happiness was paramount, even at the cost of his own.

With comedic undertones, Jim proposes using marijuana edibles to alleviate their writer’s block, leading to humorous exchanges about paranoia and their uncertainty surrounding their feelings at the wedding. As they await the effects, the uniqueness of the situation emerges — two friends grappling with their emotions, each entangled in the complex relationships around them.

As Phoebe writes her speech back in her room, her thoughts drift to her own life and what might come next. Filled with a newfound sense of purpose, she seeks opportunities, exploring options for housing and teaching, suggesting a desire to possibly start anew. The chapter closes with her feeling accomplished and hopeful, ready to face whatever comes next .